I can’t believe it’s been more than a year since either of us have come on here to write and yet I’m totally owning the fact that I didn’t want to write either.
This past year has not been a fun one. And before you say it’s been bad for most of the country or the world I get that and don’t deny it, but 2020 has been a year that I wish I could start over and make different choices. Maybe if I did they my dad would still be here.
The summer of 2019 we had to put my dad into a nursing home due to his Parkinson’s it was no longer safe for him to walk around my parents house. It was a year ago this month that I went to see him for the first time in that place and will never forget the sounds of his cry when I had to leave. He didn’t want to be there and I didn’t want him there. Thankfully I was able to see him again in December of 2019, but that was the last time I was able to put my arms around my sweet daddy.
Covid hit the world right before I was going to head back home for a visit and his nursing home like all of them went into lockdown and he didn’t get to have contact with anyone that loved him. Thank the good lord above for his iPad and FaceTime because that was our near daily way to communicate for months. Until he lost his life like over 200,000 other Americans lost their lives to his horrible virus.
I can’t go into details about those last days (it’s simply too hard), but they were horrible for him and for those of us that love him soo much. On May 14th my sweet & beautiful daddy breathed his last breath and went home. He was finally reunited with Jesus, his beloved son, his mom & dad, his baby brother, and so many others he desperately missed. But my mom and I are now all that is left of our family of 4.
Sometimes I feel like I’m still living in this twilight space of did that just really happen to me and is this my real life. In 2.5 years I lost my brother and my dad…no one should suffer loss like this.
Fast forward to August when I found out that I was 1 of 40 people that was being laid off due to workforce reduction “Covid strikes again”. I can’t say that I’m sorry about that (well not for me but for my coworker I am), that I was surprised (I had already opted to move to part-time), or that I was even sad. I’m sad about missing my team, they were family to me and most of them still are. I love them and if they are reading this I want them to know I love them, miss them, and pray for them often.
In the middle of all of this Toben started a new job with a new company that he loves. I’m just so dang proud of the work he’s doing there and the way his cares for his work, his team, and their mission. This transition has allowed me to be a stay-at-home wife. This feels like the first piece of normalcy I have felt as a wife since we got married. I think I always had this vision of what it would look like to be married and staying home was one of those things.
So here I am. I’m at home & ready to write again. Ready to begin dreaming & creating.